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It's been weighing me down. And I think that's because two questions have been jarring me - one, that just because YOU get married, are you are expected to make changes which include falling out with single friends coz they aren't? And two, are you supposed to suddenly only hang with the husband or other couples?
The truth is, I have parent friends, I have couple friends, I have divorced friends and I have single friends. And I (hope, atleast) don't think, I treat them any different. Are my conversations any different with each of these? Yes, perhaps. I have no problem being indulgent to their children, or listening to them bickering, or listening to the ex-bashing, or the new escapades that any/all/ some are going through. I feel involved. Loved that they don't find it hard to tell me this. And connected.
So would I judge my single friends? No I don't think so. I'd cherish them. Would I judge my I-don't-want-children friends, no I'd respect them. Would I judge my divorced friends? Absolutely not, I'd find them absolutely courageous. Fact is, I was and am a part of their lives and unless they think they have nothing in common with me, why should any of these friends take a backseat.
And that brings me to the original question and no, I could never stop hanging with them and let's be honest, sometimes I do feel a little "married" but that's only because I know and I want to go back and eat a meal or watch TV with the husband. So many times when I'm out with my single friends, I almost always get a take-away for the husband (that's married behaviour isn't it?) and they'll patiently wait while I order.
Here's the thing, for what it's worth, marriage can hardly be an imposition. It never has to be a friend vs husband vs couple friend. It should really mean, friend = husband = friends of all kinds. There shouldn't be an either or.
So here's a recipe that my single friend gave me who I fed to, two other single friends a couple of nights ago at home. We didn't end up eating it as dessert, but it was perfect for breakfast too.
|Crumble Rumble © Cookaroo|
Mango Peach and Blueberry Crumble
2 ripe mangoes
3 ripe peaches
50 gms blueberry
Zest of one lemon
Juice of half a lemon
1 tblsp vanilla sugar
1/4 cup flour
1/2 cup oats
1/2 cup brown sugar
50 grams butter
1 tsp cinnamon
1. Cube mangoes, peaches and bung in the blueberries into a bowl. Stir in vanilla sugar, lemon juice and lemon zest. Set aside.
2. In a bowl, add brown sugar, oats, flour and cinnamon. Add butter to it and use your finger tips to break the mix down into coarse-looking breadcrumbs.
3. Pat down the oats mixture on top of the mangoes. Bake at 200 degrees for 25 minutes of until tops are brown. Serve warm or cold, with whipped cream and ice cream.
|Single serve for single friends © Cookaroo|
Sending this to Patty's Weekly Story at Colours Dekor, which I have come to luurrrve.